Couples Sex Therapy Intensives

What positive change do you think you would see if you were to spend two full days focusing on intimacy and sexual connection with your partner?

I created this Couples Sex Therapy Intensive for couples who want to re-spark their sexual energy, deepen their connection, and explore kink, BDSM, or more playfulness during sex. Rather than meeting for 50 minutes a few times a month, an intensive gives us extended time to slow down, do a deep dive into your sexuality, and focus on several in-depth activities I have created specifically for this intensive.

I intentionally designed this intensive to be fun, playful, creative, and connecting- some of the most important things in a healthy sexual relationship! This isn't two days of sitting and talking about everything that's wrong with your sex life- it’s a collection of interactive activities and experiential exercises to help you explore desire, communication, and sensation, + discover and express kinks, fetishes, and sexual interests.

These intensives are designed for couples who are already healthy in their relationship overall-couples who feel physically and emotionally safe with one another, who can communicate respectfully, and have enough stability in their relationship to be curious, exploratory, and playful together. Maybe you've been wanting to explore kink or new sexual interests and are ready to finally dive in. Maybe life has made your sex life feel a little predictable and you want to become more confident and aware of how to spice things up. Or maybe things are going well sexually, but you just want to gift you or your partner some intentional time together to prioritize your sexual relationship even more than usual and see what else there is to discover.

How Are Intensives Structured?

Day 1:

The Intensives are 2 days long, and about 5 hours each day.

On the first day, we will:

• Do an intro activity to think about current sexual dynamics and where you’d like to see things instead. Our insights from this activity will help you set an intention for your time in this intensive as well.

• Then we’ll do an “Ideal Sexual Self” Character Development Activity where you get to do a deep dive into who you’d like to be one day in regard to sex and sexuality- think a “DND” or “Sims” inspired character development experience where you get to choose your character’s personality and abilities, props and accessories for your sexual inventory, your seduction/initiation style, a catchphrase/motto, and more!

• After that, both you and your partner will each individually do an Accelerated Resolution Therapy session with me: this is a one-on-one guided session to help you let go of anything you wish to get rid of in your mind around sex or sexuality (guilt, shame, bad memories, feeling stuck or anxious, etc), and then shift your mind towards a more healthy and thriving sex life moving forward. You can check out the Accelerated Resolution Therapy website to learn more about ART: What Is ART? - Accelerated Resolution Therapy‍

Day 2:

On the second day, we will:

• Do an activity called “Kink It Up!” where we practice brainstorming how to incorporate every day objects into a sexual scene, leaning into playfulness, sensation creation, improvisation, and creativity.

• For the second activity of the day, you will get to choose whether to:

  • Do an activity around a “Yes, No, Maybe” list- aka a list of a bunch of different kinks/fetishes/interests where you will go through the list and mark your interests (and limits) and then share with your partner out loud about what you are most interested in and why. This activity also includes in-the-moment collaboration with me to manage barriers/anxieties/insecurities/biases that may be causing some hesitation within you or your partner (since, let’s face it-sometimes kinks and fetishes can seem intimidating or weird at first!), plus I’ll also help you both brainstorm different ideas to make this kink/fetish/interest extra fun or enjoyable if you want to incorporate it into real life.

    Or:

  • Do an activity centered around a collection of sexual and emotionally connecting creative writing activities- Kinky Haikus, an Acrostic Poem about you and your partner, and a guided fill-in-the-blank story about your “Garden of Desire.” This activity is more geared towards the creative souls who want to share poetry with their partners, who want to express themselves through written art inspired by their kinks/fetishes/interests, and who want to feel a softer, more romantic connection with their partner by the end of the activity.

• The last activity on the second day is a guided Mindful Touch and Sensation Exploration Meditation that I created to practice being presently focused with your partner, and to practice giving and receiving touch and pleasure. While this meditation is not “sexual,” it is still very intimate, exploratory, and connecting since it does involve some touch and sensation creation between you and your partner (things like a brief head massage, gently rubbing a partner’s forearm or thigh, gentle kisses, etc).

• The Intensive will also wrap up with some reflection questions on growth and general takeaways from the experience overall + wishes you may have for yourself or your partner moving forward.

Also, there is a digital 80+ page activity packet that we will use throughout the intensive that you will get to take with you after the intensive is done! This is a special interactive resource that I’m very proud of creating, and I hope you and your partner will review and reflect on it even after the intensive is completed.

Cost and Scheduling:

Couples Sex Therapy Intensives are private pay only and are not able to be billed to or submitted to insurance. Clients also cannot get a superbill for these intensives either since neither a diagnosis nor a covered medical service is involved. Intensives are offered exclusively through telehealth and are generally scheduled on a Friday and Saturday, with a start time between 12PM and 3PM Mountain Time (2pm and 5pm EST). Intensives are currently $2,500, but since I just launched this intensive, the first 3 couples who book with me will get a discounted rate of $1,800! I will update this here once the first 3 couples have officially booked their intensive, so if you still see this, there is still a reduced rate intensive available! A Saturday and Sunday option is also available for an additional $800 fee, subject to availability.

Couples Sex Therapy Intensives are offered on a very limited basis—typically I will only schedule just 1-2 intensives per month max. Because there are only a small number of intensive dates available, I encourage couples who are interested to reach out early to explore upcoming availability. Intensives are available for Both Colorado and New Jersey residents, and can be booked only up to 3 months in advance.