Sex Therapy
Sex Therapy will be beneficial for you if you are looking for support around:
Releasing shame, guilt, anxiety, or insecurities around sexual interests, sexual experiences, porn use, libido, or masturbation
Recovering from emotionally wounding sexual experiences- having been shamed or mistreated around sex or sexuality
Managing sexual differences between you and your partner including differences in sexual interests/kinks/fetishes, preferred frequency of sex, or general level of desire
Learning how your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors can get in the way of having an enjoyable sex life, and learning about different solutions and strategies to manage them
Improving your ability to express both sexual interests and boundaries, and becoming more comfortable talking about sex in general so you can help communicate about the sex you want
Working through and finding relief from performance anxiety or sex related insecurities
Exploring and learning more about what turns you on and gives you pleasure including kinks, fetishes, fantasies, and the wide variety of wonderful emotions that one can experience during sex
Improving your relationship with your body, including general body image or genital size, shape, or function
Re-sparking emotional, physical, and erotic connection with yourself and your partner
Unlearning sex related myths and stigmas, and challenging negative thinking around sex in order to become more sex positive and more free to enjoy sex and sexuality
Building hope, motivation, pride, and excitement around sex and sexuality
Therapy for Depression and Low Self Esteem
Therapy For Depression & Low Self esteem Can help relieve symptoms such as:
Feeling sad, hopeless, empty, unmotivated, pessimistic, shut down, or apathetic
Decreased interest in things you used to (or normally) enjoy
Feeling the desire to oversleep/stay in bed, or difficulty falling asleep/staying asleep
Experiencing fatigue, movement feels harder/you may move more slowly, or your body feels “weighed down”
Feelings of low self esteem, worthlessness, or guilt
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions, often due to apathy or feeling like a decision would take too much emotional energy
Thoughts of death or suicide, or a general feeling of wanting to escape from life/give up
Engaging in negative self talk or negative social comparison, or having a lot of self doubt
Difficulty expressing wants and needs and/or feeling unworthy of having your wants and needs met and respected
Experiencing body insecurities or negative body image
Being sensitive to criticism or rejection
Isolating from others, being less social than usual, or feeling more comfortable just being alone
Therapy for Anxiety
Therapy For Anxiety Can help relieve symptoms such as:
Worries, fears, and racing thoughts
Feeling restless or ‘on edge,’ or having difficulty relaxing
Difficulty concentrating, “blanking out,” or difficulty making decisions
Frequently jumping to worst case scenarios, catastrophizing, or overthinking
Having a lower frustration tolerance or feeling easily irritated when anxious
Muscle tension such as tense jaw, tight shoulders, some types of digestive issues, and pelvic floor tightness
Fatigue due to all of the emotional energy it takes to be worrying all day
Difficulty regulating your emotions when anxious, or even having panic attacks
Trouble sleeping due to late night worries or rumination
Having strict or rigid expectations of yourself and others (in an attempt to feel in control)
Procrastination and/or Perfectionism
Therapy for Attachment Trauma and C-PTSD
If you’ve experienced attachment trauma, that means that you’ve experienced some kind of severe break in trust or stability in a significant relationship. This impacts your sense of self and your world views, especially around your worth and how others will treat you. Attachment trauma can result from mistreatment or neglect from parents, caregivers, family, friends, community, and/or romantic partners. Examples of attachment trauma include betrayal/a deep breach of trust, rejection or shame, ongoing messages that your feelings/thoughts/life/identities/concerns/boundaries are not important, experiencing a painful break-up from a romantic partner, being abandoned or disowned by a family member, being controlled or manipulated by others/experiencing strict expectations from others, systemic oppression, and more. C-PTSD (aka Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can develop from experiencing attachment trauma. Unlike regular PTSD which stems from a single intense life threatening or traumatic event (such as a car accident, assault, or witnessing a violent act), C-PTSD is associated with multiple relationship related experiences over an extended period of time.
Therapy For Attachment Trauma and C-PTSD CAn Help relieve symptoms such as:
Co-dependent or clingy behaviors, and/or fears of abandonment and rejection
Difficulty practicing self compassion, or difficulty being gentle and supportive of yourself
Fear of commitment, difficulty trusting self and others, or difficulty opening up to others
Difficulty regulating your emotions/feeling like your emotions overwhelm you
Feeling on edge, feeling the need to be hypervigilant of your surroundings
Feeling the need to be hyper-aware of or anticipate other people’s emotions
Being a people pleaser
Engaging in Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn trauma responses
Low self-esteem or low self-worth
Feeling the need to over-explain yourself, especially around decision making or expressing a want or need
Hyper-Independence, feeling like you can only rely on yourself, or feeling more comfortable just being on your own
Chronic feelings of feeling unlovable, never good enough, or inherently flawed
Feeling pressure to be “perfect,” deeply fearing mistakes or failure, feeling like you are “in trouble” frequently, or deeply fearing being “wrong”
Difficulty speaking up for yourself or expressing thoughts and feelings to others, which can also include physical manifestations of that such as your throat closing up or having difficulty breathing when you try to speak
Having strict and rigid expectations yourself and others, and/or feeling the need to control others
Experiencing intrusive thoughts, racing thoughts, or unwanted memories around past wounding experiences or relationship difficulties
Self-destructive behaviors such as self sabotage, self abandonment, staying in unhealthy relationships or being drawn to people that are unhealthy for you, accepting mistreatment or believing you deserve mistreatment, or even engaging in physical self harm
Couples Sex Therapy Intensives
Couples Therapy Intensives are best for those who:
Want to reignite sexual energy, excitement, and curiosity
Feel like their sex life has become predictable or routine
Want to bring more playfulness and creativity into their intimacy
Want to communicate more openly about sex, fantasies, preferences, and boundaries
Want to explore Kink, BDSM, and Sensation Play
Want to reconnect with touch, pleasure, and sensuality
Want to feel more confident, adventurous, and authentic in their intimate relationships
Are happy in their relationship but want to take their sexual connection to the next level
Check out my Pricing page to learn more about which insurances I take and my private pay rates. Or, head directly to my Contact Page to schedule a consultation or intake session with me.
“On the day you’re born, you’re given a little plot of rich and fertile soil, slightly different from everyone else’s. And right away, your family and your culture start to plant things and tend the garden for you, until you’re old enough to take over its care yourself. They plant language and attitudes and knowledge about love and safety and bodies and sex. And they teach you how to tend your garden, because as you transition through adolescence into adulthood, you’ll take on full responsibility for its care. And you didn’t choose any of that. You didn’t choose your plot of land, the seeds that were planted, or the way your garden was tended in the early years of your life. As you reach adolescence, you begin to take care of the garden on your own. And you may find that your family and culture have planted some beautiful, healthy things that are thriving in a well-tended garden. And you may notice some things you want to change. Maybe the strategies you were taught for cultivating the garden are inefficient, so you need to find different ways of taking care of it so that it will thrive.”